I remember being in high school and this really good looking guy said "you're cute but I don't date dark girls". From that moment on my life was changed. I was so hurt by those words. That's when depression, thoughts of suicide and low self esteem started to creep in. I felt like I would never be good enough to have someone in my life that would love me for me. As time went on, I started to settle for less than what I knew I deserved. I started starving myself to live up to an image that I felt was required to be accepted. I went from weighing 145 to 104. You could see the bones in my chest. I would eat maybe 2 - 3 times a week. I was even in a verbally abusive relationship and thought it was my fault and that I did something to deserve being mistreated. It got to the point when I was ready to take my own life. I am sharing this now because God began to show me myself through His eyes. I can't say it happened over night but I began to read scriptures about how God knew me in my mother's womb and how I was wonderfully made.
It's crazy because I think back on all that I had gone through and I see girls and even grown women going through the same thing. Settling for a guy who really doesn't deserve them. Not chasing after their dreams because he might leave them. They are in verbally and physically abusive relationships and make excuses for why they stay with him.
Domestic violence and even murder is on the rise. "Everyday in the US, more than three women are murdered by their husbands or boyfriends." (Source: http://domesticviolencestatistics.org/domestic-violence-statistics/) It's so sad. I remember looking at the news and thinking these women are so beautiful; that could have been me... BUT GOD! Praises be to God that He rescued me. He loved me and showed His love for me. He brought a man into my life who loves me flaws and all. My husband and I did not meet with the intentions of being in a relationship. That was the beauty of it. We were just friends and we grew closer to each other over time. He makes me a better person and pushes me to be the woman God has called me to be. It's beautiful.
I pray that women can look pass their flaws and not make excuses for why they don't deserve the best. YOU are beautiful! YOU are smart! YOU deserve the best that God has for you! YOU are a queen and YOU deserve a king that will treat you as such.
Scriptures to encourage you:
1.) You are altogether beautiful, my love; there is no flaw in you. - Song of Solomon 4:7 (ESV)
2.) For you formed my inward parts; you knitted me together in my mother's womb. I praise you, for I am fearfully and wonderfully made. Wonderful are your works; my soul knows it very well. - Psalm 139:13-14 (ESV)
3.) Because you are precious in my eyes, and honored, and I love you, I give men in return for you, peoples in exchange for your life. - Isaiah 43:4 (ESV)
4.) So God created man in his own image, in the image of God he created him; male and female he created them. - Genesis 1:27 (ESV)
5.) For I know the plans I have for you, declares the Lord, plans for welfare and not for evil, to give you a future and a hope. - Jeremiah 29:11 (ESV)
6.) For we are his workmanship, created in Christ Jesus for good works, which God prepared beforehand, that we should walk in them. - Ephesians 2:10 (ESV)
7.) See what kind of love the Father has given to us, that we should be called children of God; and so we are. The reason why the world does not know us is that it did not know him. - 1 John 3:1 (ESV)
8.) Charm is deceitful, and beauty is vain, but a woman who fears the Lord is to be praised. - Proverbs 31:30 (ESV)
9.) The Lord is near to all who call on him, to all who call on him in truth. - Psalm 145:18 (ESV)